Playing The Blame Game?
Over the last year, I’ve faced some big stuff.
And it’s stuff that’s taught me a lot about who I am and how to best show up in life.
If you’re open to it, I’d like to share the biggest thing I learned over this last year with you.
So, what is the one thing, more than anything else, I’d want you to take away from my experience?
What’s the one thing I’d want to sit across from you, look into your eyes, and want to get across to you so that you don’t have to go through this yourself?
I take full responsibility for my life and the results.
When things go sideways, it’s easy to start to look for outside reasons why things went the way they went or are going the way they are going.
There’s one thing I knew over this last year above all others…
There is no one to blame for my life.
It’s on me.
It’s all on me.
Listen, I may not have known why I was doing, or not doing, some of the things I was doing and not doing… but I was and am fully aware that it’s on me.
To think of it like a football game…
- It’s not the refs.
- It’s not the other players on the other team.
- It’s not the fans cheering or booing in the stands.
- It’s not the rules – I knew those when I started the game.
- And it’s certainly not the other players on my own team.
I’m amazed every week when I watch football how much energy and attention gets placed on one or two “key plays” in a game.
This is especially true on plays that “end the game” like a dropped pass on the final drive.
If only he’d not dropped the ball and made that catch at the end of the game… then we could’ve gone on a scored and won the game.
There are between 50 and 70 plays per team in a game. That’s 100 -140 plays that a team is on the field and has a chance to move the game in their favor.
And yet we talk about one or two plays like they were the only thing that went wrong.
This is what coaches talk about when they say don’t let another team hang around.
You don’t want an entire game to come down to one play.
What does this mean to us off the field?
There are two things:
ONE… Where are you letting problems hang around in your life so that you’ll need that one miraculous play to bail you out?
TWO… When that one play doesn’t work out, who are you blaming? Did someone not make a block for you? Did someone throw you a pass that was uncatchable? Did someone drop a perfect pass you threw them? was it the coach? The Refs? The other team playing dirty?
Listen, I may have played a sloppy game in one part of my life this year but this I know… I take the blame. That was on me.
And I’ve learned some really cool things at a level and in a way I couldn’t have learned any other way.
And I’m better, stronger, and more certain about my ability to help others than ever before.
So, Champion, when things get tough, don’t look for who you can blame, look at what you can learn from your role in the situation.
That’s what you can improve.
And by the way, it may be the only thing you can do is to look at the past in a more productive way… to search for and use the lesson(s) to your advantage.
Truth is, that’s enough. Do that on a regular basis and life will work better – GUARANTEED.
In your corner,
P.S. – I’m launching a new program. It’s called The Guaranteed Life Project. The focus is How to Make Your Life Work and What to Do When It Doesn’t. Stay tuned.