Making the Right Choice vs Making the Choice Right
“I don’t know what to do.” said the voice on the other end of the phone.
“What stops you from just doing something, anything?”
“I’m afraid I’ll make the wrong choice.”
“Ahhhh, I see. Well, what if there’s not a right choice? What if it’s just a choice?” I asked.
— Silence —
Finally, the voice on the other end broke the silence with a phrase I’ve come to love in my on-on-one coaching calls, “What do you mean?”
That, dear reader, is the phrase that signifies the opening of a mind to a new way of seeing the world. And that is a beautiful thing that gets me up in the morning.
And in the next few moments, I’m going to share an analogy with you that was once shared with me and that I hope you’ll share with others.
First, let’s look at the problem…
The “Making the Right Choice” Epidemic
There’s seems to be an epidemic sweeping across the land. And it’s an epidemic deadlier than any disease because it paralyzes not just the body but the human spirit as well.
I hear people talking about wanting to “make the right choice”.
Now, what I find interesting is that if you get down to it, what they are really thinking is that they don’t want to make the wrong choice. However, we’ll save that for another day.
So back to making the right choice…
It seems that people are so concerned about making the choice itself that they forget there are a whole series of things that need to happen AFTER the choice is made.
For instance, if I’m choosing between a job in New York City vs. a job in LA, then the choice sets a whole string of actions into motion.
And if we’re being realistic, it’s easy to see that there are plenty of chances for the “right” choice to go horribly wrong if we don’t stay focused AFTER the choice is made.
Making the right choice is not actually about the moment of the choice, success or failure is much more dependent on all the other choices that follow.
In other words, you don’t make the right choice as much as you make a choice and then make that choice right.
How To Make Any Choice the “Right” Choice
Before we go any further, let me say that when I say “right” I’m not talking about clear moral matters like whether you should, or should not, kill your neighbor because they left the spotlight on and it’s shining in your bedroom window… again.
That’s not the type of right or wrong I’m talking about in this post.
What I am talking about is two right choices. (And by the way, what an amazing realization that we so often have two right choices from which to choose.)
So you have two basically good options and you’ve got to make a choice.
Here’s the secret formula (it’s got two steps):
Step One: Choose one.
Step Two: Make that choice right by going all in on that choice. In a word, commit.
Still not convinced?
Think of it like this (warning sports analogy coming up)…
Making the Right Choice is like a Football Game.
Think of the game of life as a football game.
The object is to win the game and you do that by scoring more points than the other team, right?
So how do you score points?
What I mean is, what’s the “right” way to score points?
Is it a pass?
Or maybe a running play?
Oh, I know, maybe a field goal?
Wait a minute… what about a safety? I mean two points could be all I need if my defense plays well.
And that’s not all…
Because within any one of those right ways to score points, there is an endless, almost infinite number of nuances and circumstances that can happen on a given play.
So let me ask you…
If I were running a pass play and that play didn’t allow me to score, was it the “wrong” play?
Of course not.
It’s just part of the game, right?
What would make it right or wrong is how I showed up… how I applied myself to THAT play (that decision) and how I showed up on the next play. And the next. And the one after that.
All the way until the end of the game.
For instance, a punt might be a really good choice if I make it the right choice by playing field position and letting my defense flip the field for me.
In fact, a good punt with a strong defensive 3 and out could be the equivalent of a long pass play… and my offense gets a rest for three downs plus time to consult with the coaching staff.
Can you see it?
It’s just perspective.
There is no perfectly right play on the field of life.
You choose the play and then you execute that play to the best of your ability.
And you keep doing that until the whistle sounds and the good Lord calls you home.
So, my dear reader, relax.
It’s not the choice that deserves your energy, it’s the way you play the choice.
And how you play the choice is simple: all out (or all in depending on your preference – your choice). 😉
What’s great is that this philosophy works for every area of your life: Fitness, Identity, Relationships and Enterprises.
So get out there, make a choice and then make that choice right.
In your corner,